Just what is the point – and all that jazz?

Hello to all and welcome back to ABTY,

In my quest to become a better person and add a little more love to the world I have started to wonder about my own actions, reactions and place in the world, which has seen me negotiate this rather big question:

How pointless is your point Christine?

By that I mean – when I find myself complaining about something or someone and making a fuss about something – I try to stop and ask myself three questions:

1.” Christine – is there really a point to what you are saying ?”

2. ” Does this really matter and why are you making such a fuss about it?”

3. ” What is really going on here?”

And sometimes the answers are quite surprising  - if not a little disappointing or disturbing to me ha ha.

So – let’s take a look at the answers:

In order to look at the answers to these questions, I am going to look at them in relation to a common annoyance that you may all relate to. So here we go:

Situation: You are driving somewhere in your car. The person in front of you is driving really slowly and in a manner you think displays a total lack of driving ability. You start ranting behind the wheel of your vehicle and become increasingly agitated.

1. Question One: ” Is there really a point to what you are saying?”

Answer: in reality there is no productive outcome to complaining about this person’s driving. You can either just relax and stay behind them – or choose a different route. Neither action requires a berating of, or negative commentary on their driving skills. In fact, becoming irritable will only place yourself and all those on the roads around you in a dangerous dynamic, as you become impatient and choose silly options to get around this person. Your words will not change this person’s driving at all and can only impact upon your own experience on the road and in your car with your passengers. Perhaps even causing an adverse and unwanted reaction from the person who is annoying you.

2. Question Two:  ” Does it really matter and why are you making such a fuss about it?”

Answer: no it does not really matter. The truth is that if you have left enough time for your own journey, then this person’s slowness should not effect you at all. A few minutes here and there will make no difference at all to your day. So why the fuss? It all comes down to a sense of self importance I think. You think that you have the right of way on the road – because you are more important than the other person. Clearly this is unreasonable thinking.

3. Question Three: ” What is really going on here?”

Answer: as above. As I see it – with myself and with others  -it is all down to two things. A –  a lack of planning and then blaming the other person for you now being late. B – an over inflated sense of self importance and the belief that you are the only person that matters. Why for instance – is the other person’s need to get where they are going, in a manner pleasing to them, not as important as your need to get where you are going in a matter pleasing to you?

So  - you can see from the above example that often times there is no point to the drama.

The point – is in fact  - pointless ha ha ah ha?

How do I know this?

Because I have both been the observer and perpetrator of such ridiculous moments and rants many a time. This is not to invalidate however, the many times when there may be great value to a point you are making in any given situation. But you can see, I am sure, that in this example – this would not be one of those cases.

Except for the most self controlled and evolved of those among us – I would venture to say that we all have gone out on a limb with something that had no point on the odd or not so odd occasion ha ha ah ha.

So today – I simply remind us all – myself included  - that before we dive into an explosion of points and explanations and objectives and reasonings and rants towards others and various situations……perhaps  we could all save ourselves the angst and bother by simply asking:

” Does this point really have a point?”

And here endeth the thought for today.

#DiscoverYou #LoveYou #BeYou

Christine

And remember – we are all just doing the best we can!