The Freedom Trail – an exploration of love!

Welcome everyone back to the blog,

It would be fair to say that in recent years my life has become a study of LOVE.

How we all give love and how we all receive it.

How we welcome it and how we block it.

How we fear it and crave it and shut it down.

I sometimes feel that The Universe decided rather suddenly to open my eyes to a whole new world and send me on a crash course without my knowledge or consent.

And this course could be called : LOVE 101!

It seems that prior to this I was a little cut off.

A little blocked.

A little shut off.

And the experiences have come thick and fast over the past few years. In so many ways – romantic and otherwise.

How I receive love, how I give love, what love means to me and how the people around me both give and receive love – both romantic and otherwise –  have come into sharp focus in so many ways.

And whilst you may think that this has left me ” judging the behaviour ” of those around me – the opposite is in fact true……

This new way of looking at my ” loving interactions” with the world around me has left me releasing judgement of everyone around me……

And a certain element of peace seems to have come over me.

I seem to have uncovered something.

Acceptance and Understanding = Peace and Freedom!

Does this mean thinking it is OK when another person treats you badly?

Does this mean staying in a situation that is not reflecting back to you the love you are giving out?

Does this mean closing your love down and shutting your heart off when it has been stomped upon and thrown back at you with disregard?

The answers I have found to the questions above are:

No

No

and No.

You simply exercise a little Acceptance and Understanding and this quickly brings you to a place of Peace and Freedom!

It may sound too easy. Too simple. Too trite.

But it really is as simple as that. And let me assure you – when it comes to romance – my poor little heart has been through the ringer in the past few years.

But whereas previously I would have shut down – and melted down – I have recently found myself to have landed in a different place. A different mindset.

A place of  - you guessed it: Acceptance and Understanding!

So what exactly am I ” accepting and understanding”?

I am accepting and understanding that each person on The Planet is on their own journey and working through their own stuff. And whilst I may have found their interactions with me to be less than what I was wanting or hoping for – perhaps they are just doing the best they can.

Does this mean I stay in a non loving environment or with a person who consistently displays a less then loving approach? No of course not. If you are in a situation that is constantly “unloving” then move away from that – but when you do – just remember that perhaps that person may be doing the best they can:

• perhaps they have had a huge trauma in their own past that has stopped them from giving the love you hoped to receive from them?
• perhaps they are in a situation now, that causes them great stress and they are just trying to survive in their own puddle – and to do that, they have built a wall around themselves?
• perhaps they can not see possibilities that may exist for them and feel stuck where they are, unable to make change that brings them freedom and love?
• perhaps they are simply not at a point where they are able to relax and truly receive love from another person?
• perhaps they have so little ” self love” that making any change in their life is simply impossible?
• perhaps they speak mean and cold words to others [ including you ] because they are so dreadfully unhappy with their own lives and see no way out?
• perhaps they are simply not ready to love?
• perhaps they are too scared to love ?
• perhaps they have never had anyone speak or act lovingly to them before and it fills them with suspicion or leaves them unable to accept your love?
• perhaps they are simply too scared to open themselves up and be vulnerable by giving or receiving love from another?
• perhaps a huge loss in the past has shut their heart down and closed them off?

I can honestly say that I have been everyone of those people listed above. And – I have experienced others around me who are all of the people listed above.

And most likely all of you reading this have too.

The point is that everyone – else’s life is not about You.

Everybody – else’s life is about Them.

It is their journey and their experience and You are just a small or large part of that.

So how another person treats you, re-acts to you or speaks to you is not a reflection of you – but a reflection of them.

It is their life experience and stuff [ what we often call baggage ] – that informs how they behave.

And You are merely a player in their drama as it unfolds. As they learn their life lessons.  [ and you learn yours ]

Perhaps you become a featured role and stay for the entire Seven Seasons of their drama.

Perhaps you are a guest with a featured role who is the centre of the drama for a small while.

Perhaps you find yourself moving to another city never to be seen again, in the first episode.

And perhaps you are just an extra in the background.

Whatever role you fill in the lives of those around you – be aware that you are just a part of their life. Playing a role and being a character.

A character that is somehow – in the scheme of things – helping them figure out who they are. Just as they are helping you figure out who you are, by being a player in your life.

And in this game of life – how we give and receive love seems to be the ultimate question and the ultimate answer.

How we love our friends.

How we love our family.

How we love our lovers.

How we love our work colleagues.

How we love our environment.

How we love our World.

That is life and we are all in it together.

Everything we do is an expression of love – or non love.

As the ancient saying goes: ” What would love have me do in this situation?”

As I read back through this blog – it seems to have gone to places I had not intended and ended up not at all where I thought it would ha ah ha. But that is the nature of these blogs.

What is meant to come out will pour forth onto the page and whoever is meant to read it will find it.

So – at 1146 words I shall wrap up what was going to be a ” quick little blog” for the day and remind you of what I have discovered:

Acceptance and Understanding = Peace and Freedom!

#DiscoverYou #LoveYou #BeYou

Christine