Mistakes, moments and misadventures!

It is interesting to me how we so often expect anything we do to go swimmingly well on the first attempt and how scathing we can be of ourselves and others when they don’t.Or how quick we are to judge ourselves when we make a mistake – a misstep – a misjudgement. But like a baby learning to walk for the first time, life is one big learning curve and if you are waiting for the time to come when you don’t make any mistakes, missteps or misjudgements, then you will be waiting a very long time.

Our lives are in fact a mix of mistakes,  misadventures, moments to cherish, moments to repeat and moments to avoid ever experiencing again. And when you think about it – what an incredible feedback mechanism all these less than perfect moments are. Our mistakes – or rather those moments we perceive to be mistakes, are in fact, so totally perfect in their imperfection that it is mind blowing.

Imagine having the opportunity to find out what you do not want in your life, by experiencing that exact situation. Whether it be your interaction with a person, place, activity or thing – nothing drives the point home more elegantly than the realization that it was a huge mistake and not something that you wish to repeat.

It is also most comforting to know, that whilst you are fumbling around in your own little bubble  [ yes - at the end of the day we all live in our own little bubble ] the person beside you, is having just as much fun fumbling around in theirs. And whilst we may all be giving the outside world a huge grin and a big thumbs up, putting on a charade of   ” everything is perfect in my bubble” – the simple truth is that we all have stuff we are sorting out.

That is just how life is.

And we are all in this together. We are all floating through life in our little bubbles, just figuring out exactly what it is that makes us tick  and what we want to:

a. let into our bubble and /or

b. keep out

I write this blog today in the hope that it will make you feel better about anything you are dealing with in your own bubble, but also to make us all just that little bit more compassionate to those we see around us – because we really can never know what is going on inside someone else’s bubble.

But one thing I can guarantee, that no matter who that person is – rich, poor, black, white, famous, not famous, educated, not educated, man or woman -they will all be fumbling along in their  own little bubble, just trying to sort out who they are and what makes them tick, the same as everyone else.

So next time things do not go to plan, or you make a decision you later come to regret, simply pat yourself on the back,  laugh out loud and congratulate yourself on having such a wonderful feedback mechanism working in your little bubble.

That person who is driving you mad – ” note to self – not for me – stay out of their bubble”

That event that went belly up – ” note to self – not to be repeated – must be fixed”

That situation that ended in a not so ceremonious way -” note to self – avoid in future”

These supposed “mistakes” and “missteps” are in fact some of our greatest signposts to where we actually want to be. Who we want to be with. And what we want to be doing.

They are in fact groovy little stepping stones to the success we seek in all areas of our lives.

So embrace every moment, every mistake and every bit of madness that comes into your life……… for if truth be told you invited it into your little bubble. So if you no longer want it there, residing with you, get out that notebook in your mind and write that little “note to self”  - and move forward into the next chapter of your life.

One big learning curve.

One big game.

One big cycle, that continuously goes round.

And you are the one pushing the peddles.

Mistakes = Signposts = Gratitude

So perhaps take a different approach and be grateful for the heads up these “mistakes”, “missteps” and “misadventures” give you.

From this perspective life is indeed a wonderful thing – full of everything you need to find all the success you could ever want in every direction.

So – create the bubble that works for you and thank the signposts that come to you along the way – you could not do it without them.

#Discover You. #Love You. #Be You.

- Christine -